6-3-16 Mirror
Although the relationship could not be fixed to my satisfaction, I understood certain limitations in the last visit. And those limitations were not specific to our relationship, but to the interactions between individuals. Individuals can only offer what they are, what they know, what they have experienced, what they value. And in the interaction, we look for a mirror of agreement. If we don’t find it, it becomes apparent that we are either in conflict or we are not being seen in the way we would like to be. This may not be apparent to the other person, and they may also feel misunderstood as we are the mirror to their offerings.
There is a lot of tension in human interactions as we are always unsure of what the reflection will be and we seek to be seen and to be seen correctly as we imagine that to be. However the person we are granting the right to reflect us may not understand what we are saying, or alluding to, or valuing, and they are not a capable, reliable mirror.
In the end, one has to question the value of the mirror as it isolates us in our own persona. The value of the individual person can be questioned as too small, too isolating, too imagined and not worth defending as such. In some ways, the mediocre quality of most interactions shows that people know this, but the information exchanged reflects the personal content, the personal experience. There is a desire to discount the personal content because it is incomplete and limited in truth, and because we are interested in a more accurate, larger, more encompassing, and more fundamental grounding in the universal mind. However, to discount this personal content leaves little room to exchange personal thoughts and perhaps we are afraid of the isolation of this.
Can a person acknowledge their need for human collaboration through dialogue, while at the same time confirm their shared ground in Life? One hopes that a more comprehensive understanding of human conditioning would set a person free from their own personal agenda and the need for the other to comply with their expectations. There is no guarantee of mutual understanding and collaboration in this, but the person who sees the problem may have a chance to question their own defended position, identity included and set in motion a different way of relating.
(Image: The Desert Man and the Forest Man Have a Conversation in the Cosmos)
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